Miss Understood

3 Jun

I learned two things about myself this week that I hadn’t really grasped, understood, or realized previously.

Numero Uno: Is that I’m pretty dang good at offending people without meaning to.

and Two: Is that I’m a much meaner person than I really knew.

Many of my readers are people I know IRL so I’m sure you’re probably thinking, “She’s nuts…She’s not mean. She’s sugar and spice and everything nice” Did I take that too far just now? Ha! Anyway, hear me out:

(1) I suppose all religion and politics talk should be off-limits on all my social networks: twitter, blogs, and facebook-and in conversation in general. It makes people mad at me. It makes people make mean-spirited comments toward me and decide we can no longer be friends- all because I have a differing view. I must come across the wrong way! Aren’t southern women supposed to be really good at smiling and insulting at the same time? Ha! The thing is, I truly don’t mean to insult, which is probably worse. Sometimes I consider deleting all things internet. Lord knows I’ll have more time to enjoy His awesome creation! But I don’t rid myself of online networking because it keeps me in contact with so many people that I know and love that I otherwise would never hear from.

(2) Have I ever told you that one of the superlatives I got in H.S. was either “Most Friendly” or “Sweetest”? I can’t remember which. Anyway, I think this is evidence that at one time I was a nice person. Perhaps I’ve clung to that title far too long, though. I think my niceness has worn off and I’m left with the personality trait of saying whatever is on my mind. I don’t necessarily think speaking my mind is a bad trait, but if you refer to Numero Uno again you will see where I get myself in trouble. It’s just that I used to take and take and take people’s negativity and never stand up for myself. As I get older, my tolerance level declines. I just don’t care to be walked all over anymore–not my style. Things around here have been happening lately that I just don’t take kindly to (I hope you said that in your head as an old man with a strong southern accent) and I haven’t really held my tongue. Quite the opposite, I’ve stuck my foot in my mouth a lot the past few days. I wonder, was it unwarranted? Am I this increasingly meaner person as the years fly by? Truth is- I hope not, but I’m leaning towards the affirmative.

So, here’s to you my faithful readers! I appreciate you continuing to read the musings of a big, fat meanie like me. I truly hope I’ve never offended any of you, but if I have, I apologize…and I mean it! I’m a pretty accepting person, in reality, even though I may not come off as such in my writing.

I guess you could say that I’m ready for this vacay with my baby! I’m ready to get out of Fairbanks for awhile with the best guy a woman could ask for. I’m ready to finally have a honeymoon. Do you realize this is the very first time Captain J and I have gone on vacation alone together? I’m so excited. Upon my return (or perhaps while I’m gone), I’ll regale you with stories of scuba diving, deep sea fishing, sun bathing, hiking Hawaii, and so much more! Plus, in the immediate future, I’ll be participating in Five Question Friday again–Vlog Style, of course! See you then.

Best Regards,
aka- Miss Understood


8 Responses to “Miss Understood”

  1. d.a.r. June 3, 2010 at 4:51 pm #

    I think many of us stop holding our tongues as we get older. I certainly have!! I’m trying to now learn how to be assertive in moderation 🙂

    Enjoy Hawaii!!!

  2. Mrs. W-iz June 3, 2010 at 5:17 pm #

    I’m pretty sure it doesn’t matter how politely you talk about religion and politics…someone will ALWAYS get their feelings hurt. Truth is, that’s life; it’s not a reflection on you or your “mean” personality.
    And I for one am a firm believer in standing up for yourself! If you don’t, who will?

    Enjoy your Hawaiian adventure! Ya’ll deserve it!

  3. Laura Weigle June 3, 2010 at 5:50 pm #

    Here’s my opinion… Say what you mean and mean what you say!

  4. Alyson June 3, 2010 at 6:36 pm #

    You pretty much just described me to a T (except for the part about getting voted Friendliest in high school, I have never been THAT nice lol) I don’t know if it is getting older or being a mother but my tolerance level is much MUCH lower and I often find myself saying mean things (sometimes intentionally, sometimes not). I don’t think it is wrong of you to state your opinion even if someone doesn’t like it as long as you are not TRYING to be mean. Stand up for yourself and those don’t like it can kiss it! That’s my opinion 🙂

  5. wanderingmenace June 3, 2010 at 11:01 pm #

    Firstly: instructing me to read in the old man southern voice was a stroke of genius that I very much appreciate.
    Secondly: I think it’s great that you’re saying more about how you feel-one of my oldest friends was always the nicest and sweetest people I knew and then about two years ago she reached a point where she just had to be heard a little louder. I loved watching her transition especially because she remained as sweet and nice as she always had been, but her voice got so much louder and more confident. She’s still one of my closest buds and she never hesitates to tell me if I’m straying off into Lord knows what kind of catastrophe…
    Thirdly: Please don’t delete all things internet-how on Earth would I keep track of you if you did?
    Finally: Have a beautiful vacation-you deserve it.

  6. Dave Weigle June 4, 2010 at 2:31 am #

    You’re still the sweetest person I know (but of course, I’m a damn Yankee and you know what we’re like).

  7. Jenn June 4, 2010 at 11:31 am #

    I think the bluntness is something that we all learn to deal with. I’m bad at holding my tongue most of the time. I’m pretty positive that despite you saying your a meanie your really a genuinely nice person.

  8. Scuba Equipment and Dive vacations June 8, 2011 at 9:02 pm #

    What is the best way to find people to go scuba diving with?

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